Rosalyn Olivera: Munchkin: Since you seem to have ALL the answers, how about the one to my origional question, in 80 days when she is 18, can I finally throw her butt out? If so, would you like to take her, I can ship her to you? Then I can sit at my machine and give you advise.............
Caleb Chapman: I have checked with the State of CT, they have NO programs for her, and NO help once she turns 10 (in 80 days). She has refused court ordered therapy, and refused a court order to attend school (nobody would enforce either order). I am afraid most of the time in my home and have put dead locks on my office and bedroom, in fear that she might hurt me or my 9 year old. She swears at and verbally abuses my 9 year old as well.............
Valentine Willinger: Of course, this is why some parents have been driving half-way across the country to drop their teens off in Nebraska.Don't feel bad about yourself. You've gone over and above the call of duty. Some chi! ldren are just born that way or warped that way in the first few years of life. I would talk to a lawyer. THIS IS MY MAJOR ADVICE. First, he can tell you the real answer - I'm pretty sure that by age 18 you can make her leave. Worst case, ha ha, you move into an apartment with doorman security and sell the house, and she has to leave when the house is sold out from under her. At 18 you won't have to take her with you.Also, I would get a lawyer's opinion as to whether you can firmly (without injury) actually restrain her, drag her by the arm, hold her hands so she can't hit you, whatever. With a good lawyer and professional advice, the significantly less-educated social worker probably can't intimdate you with misleading information. At worst, if she does anything to endanger a 9yo, you can get a restraining order against her to stay away once she's 18 and she has to leave the house. (Even if you have to hire sherriff's officers to enforce it - they can lay hands on her and ! drag her away.)I agree - at this point the chance for therapy ! and touchy-feely reconcilliation is long past. She has to face the real world, and people who won't put up with her antisocial behaviour. If she can't learn, well, it was going to have to happen sooner or later in her life - learn or else. Maybe you can set up some sort of arrangement to give her a few hundred dollars a month to supplement her living costs (maybe provided she gets a job? Drop off a copy of pay stub this month, we deposit $X in your account.)I think it's a sickness. Someone who won't learn and adapt in a good environment has a physical disorder like schizophrenia or severe ADD (in my non-professional opinion) not psychological issues that can be addressed with therapy. Unfortunately, there's no real cure for these that doesn't involve turning them into drugged zombies.Good luck....Show more
Jed Porada: I answered your original question.I live near ft. Sill, OK at this moment. So if you got her plane ticket, I know resources she can attend to. If she ! goes to Cali, send her to Bakersfield. Got some friends in the police dept and the child protective services for foster and adoptive care who can help gear her while she is in the legal system.If you want to send her out on her own, sometimes tough love. But all in all, you have your own self to look at because you are not all innocent in this situation. I noticed you said "X"....that plays a part in all this too you know. I will not respond back to your question....Show more
Guy Bonamico: Munchkin: How many time would you tolerate being punched in the mouth, spat in the face, DCF in your home looking through your cupboards, ordering you for drug test (naturally that came out neg), phones being thrown through your windows, holes being punched and kicked in your walls, your car, and money being taken? How many times a day would you be called a fing B in front of your 6 or 7 year old? How many times would you sit in court and listen to useless orders for therapy and e! ducation, never to be executed? How many threats of burning down your ! house, or killing you while you sleep would you tolerate? I guess it is easy for you to accuse me of "giving up", given all of the above, I guess you are right, I GIVE UP....Show more
Pearlie Medora: First off, the first time she even attempted to put her hands on my mother, she would have had that girl scrunched up in a corner somewhere. Here's your problem, you have no authority. You should have been firm with her from the get go. And as soon as she started to think about dropping out of school in the 10th grade you should have told her then, "That doesn't fly in this house." She has no respect for you cause to her you're not a real parent. She's not afraid of you. I know they say that your children should be afraid of you but in my opinion they should. Now she's 17, she feels like because she makes her own money what good are you. See, like my mom just said, if it were her, she'd just have to get arrested. You are not supposed to be scared in your own house. You n! eed to beat her. Point.Blank.Period. Beat that girl. Cause Lord knows she needs it. Show her who's house it is and if she doesn't like it, she can get the hell out!...Show more
Houston Venezia: Anger, what about? She was in FIVE foster homes before we adopted her. He biological mother died of a drug overdose. Her biological father was in jail for sexually assulting her with a screwdriver. YES, she needs therapy, and we have fought over it for YEARS. The bottom line is I am at the end of my rope, she has made my life HELL for for the past 3 years, and I want her OUT of my home, to be able to raise my 9 year old in a "normal" environment.
Dick Maisenbacher: BTW, she has sold anything of any worth that I EVER gave her, the gaming stations (she stole the last wii), the laptops, the cameras, the camcorder, even her 600.00 bike. If I were to remove anything from her room (her TV or stereo), she would rip my hair out in chucks, while kicking holes in my walls. T! rust me, I have tried everything, nothing works, the bottom line is, I ! am finished and want her OUT of my home...........
Krystal Cordovano: I have been CLEARLY told by the police that if I put ONE hand on her, to bring her to my car (for school or therapy or in self defense), THAT I WILL BE ARRESTED. She knows the system here in CT, and clearly knows that I can not lay one hand on her, not even to "guide" her to my car, to take her to school or to therapy.
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